Showing posts from February, 2015

My Heart is Broken... continued....

So my daughter left her roommate's place with her roommates clothes and didn't come back.  Then in the AM on her FB I see she is now in a "relationship" with a guy who is flashing the "Blood" gang sign and she only friended him that day.  She is no longer speaking to me.  I tried my best.  despite all of the nasty mean things she has said to me when she asked for my help I came through spending just under $1000 in less than a week to get her to Colorado.  Yet less than 2 days later she is trashing her roommate and other friends.

I just don't know how to let go.....

A Mother's Broken Heart Part II

The phone rings - my daughter is complaining that her new roommate (not even 48 hours yet) is being mean and giving her an attitude.  I suggested she try to talk with her roommate and she said she plans on heading back as soon as she gets her money and hung up with me.  I asked her roommate what was up and this was the text:

"She's complaining because I'm expecting her to actually do shit and not sit around.  She invited a guy overcast night, knowing guys aren't allowed, and now she's trying see  if a friend of hers can say.  I am not in the mood to deal with her, and if she wants to make her own rules then she can get tf out, because I have a life and I will not let her decisions bring me down"
I am so frustrated - I keep hoping and praying she gets herself together.  How do I let go - I just don't know.

A Prayer for a new beginning - the Phoenix

For those of us with adult or nearly adult children who may have lost their way - I am burning a candle in prayer for their rebirth. Trauma changes the brain and makes it hard for our children to find their way to love. Let this candle light their path to love and give them the ability to define themselves without their trauma and past defining them.

For my daughter:
This is the candle I am burning - blessing you with hope and love on your journey. Behind it is the Phoenix - you probably remember it from Harry Potter - it grows and becomes a beautiful bird and then it grows old and bursts into flames - turns into ashes and is reborn. This is your rebirth - you have a chance to become new again. I believe in you as I always have, I love you as I always have, and I have hope and prayers for you as I always have. This candle will burn and become something amazing for you.


update - this is what the candle looks like after 1 day (it has a statue in …


I am studying for my first California Marriage and Family Therapist Exam - which is called the Standard Written Exam.  I am using to help me study.
To force myself to work forward (I am a procrastinator at heart) I have set my exam date to March 11th at 9am.  I have a lot to study - and I am extremely anxious.  When I pass this exam, I will have one more exam to pass and then I will finally be a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.

Well I better quit putting it off and get some studying done today.  I HATE studying but at least I am no longer driving my son everywhere so I have more time to settle into studying - I LOVE him having his license.

A Mother's Broken Heart

"Ok, well here is a thought don't read my f.b then. No one is forcing u to "check on me". Yes, im ur "daughter" but u blocked me out once n it wouldn't hurt anybody to do it again, permanently. Im living the life my actions n certain situations have led me too, thats that. Yes, i may need help but i dont want it. I gave up a while ago i just chose to bullshit around n look for an imaginary life everyone led me to believe i deserved. Im tired of trying to do good just to have it all ripped apart in a matter of seconds because of a simple or even drastic mistake i have made. Im good at selling drugs, im good at gang banging, and im good at feeling nothing. I noticed that i really don't care n I've watched myself change for example majority of the phone calls we've had like the one we just had i ended in tears, this one i felt nothing, no guilt, shame, love, nothing. What i can say is i was 100% honest. I did want more in life, i …

Full Snow Moon, Full Hunger Moon, or Full Wolf Moon

This time of year our ancestors struggled to find food, were cold and often struggled to have hope.  This is a good time to focus on what the future holds and to getting through the tough times.  This time of year always seems to be hard for me to get through.  Finances are tough from the holidays, trying to plan for the future and making it through the day, it can be hard to have hope.

This is the time of year that I usually struggle and usually start to find the my seeds of intent are not going to come out the way I thought they would.  But this year is full of surprises!  My hubby and I are planning to go on a cruise to Alaska with my parents and we went to our first PBR event.  A year of changes and getting the rewards of working so darn hard to get our lives on track.

This is a full moon that I often ask to be shown the way and even if it seems divergent from my original plans, I follow the path that is shown - it always turns out to be the best path for me.  The past…

Imbolc - Putting thoughts into actions

Now it is the time of year when we actually start working on our intentions - we plant the seeds - we start actively spending energy to make our seeds of intent grow.

So let's see how I am coming along with each of my intents.

1.  To walk more  - I got new shoes that are made for walking - expensive (in my view) but hopefully worth it.  Started walking and am able to walk faster.
2.  To make sure I do self-care - I am taking more time for myself.  Actually visiting with friends - and doing things that make me feel better.
3.  To pass my licensing exams - starting studying
4.  To find a way to be supportive of my daughter and not enable her - have limited my contact with her to very occasional - after I tried to help her move to CO and she didn't get to the airport with enough time to get through security - I know she is not ready.
5.  To continue to follow the path the Goddess has put in front of me especially when it comes to being a therapist - taking cases I feel calle…