Lady Heather's Domain: My life in a Nutshell

As my hubby pointed out last night it has been 10 months since his first and most major lower sexual reassignment surgery.  First off I have to say that I hate the term sexual reassignment surgery since he has always been male in my eyes (he transitioned over 12 years ago and I have only known him just over 6 years) so even though he is having lower surgery he already transitioned in my eyes. So the surgeries have been a lot of ups and downs.  Even though they gave us a timeline reality did not set in on how long it would take and because of scheduling issues there was a more than 2 month delay on the last surgery and there had been complications there is still at least one more surgery to go for this round.  So where are we?  Well in a couple of months we will be able to schedule his next surgery which we figure will be around May 2013 and then probably a couple months after that he will have one more minor surgery (August 2013??) and then he has to wait at leas...

The night of December 3, 2006 my understanding of gender would change dramatically and it would continue to change even through today.  Now I already understood that some people felt they were actually not the gender they were born and I myself have dealt with questioning whether I was supposed to be a boy or a girl in my teen years but I had not really spend much time researching and certainly never had the opportunity to ask someone questions and learn from their point of view before. So back to that night.  I was on a website http://www.butchfemmematchmaker.com as I was a femme lesbian looking for a stone-butch or butch.  I expanded my search to ftm (female to male) thinking that someone ftm wouldn't be much different than the stone butches I had dated (I would learn differently) and found a profile that had some references to The Princess Bride which is my favorite movie of all time so sent him a "virtual kiss".  Later on that evening he would open up a chat a...

My son spent the night at a friend's house and won't be home until he is ready to go to roller skating this evening at our rink that just reopned.  Hubby and I relaxed quite a bit.  I did a lot of emailing trying to find a place to stay in February for his surgery.  A lady called and she offered us to rent her whole house except her master bedroom.  It has a pool and a hot tub.  She sent pictures and it seems perfect.  She will give me more information in the next day or two so I can send a rental application. My son came home and rested for a bit and then I drove him to the rink.  Hubby and I just enjoyed the quiet.  I did some reading.  He called when he was ready to be picked up.  He could barely walk because he got such a big blister, but he said he had fun. We all went to bed not long after that. I started having problems sleeping.  I am getting so nervous about starting a new job.  I hate starting over again but I ju...

I got up and made sure my son got off to school.  I checked my email and responded to a few and then got back in bed and cuddled with my hubby.  I feel so much lighter - I don't feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders.  My hubby and I got up and we got ready and left.  He drove to SF.  It was a nice drive and we enjoyed our conversation with each other.  We got to his doctor's office and I sat and read.  He was out in a reasonable time - I really didn't notice the time because I was enjoying my book so much.  Then he decided to check in with his other doctor.  At that time I got a call from my son's best friend's dad about scouting stuff and that gave me a chance to ask if my son would be able to stay with him for 2 weeks for my hubby's surgery.  He said no problem.  AWESOME! I walked into the dr office and only had to sit for a couple of minutes.  My hubby was done.  As we walked out of the office we sa...

I got up and got my son up.  Today I go to the laser hair removal place - I am kind of excited.  I remember not having to shave my face a long time ago after my laser treatmens being able to go without shaving and having peach fuzz!  I hope this works well. I started the day off looking for vacation rentals in the area of where my hubby will be getting surgery because the cost of a hotel for a month is just too high - in the range of nearly $4K. I went to the laser place and right after I got out of there, I missed a phone call.  I checked my voicemail and it was from the place I interviewed yesterday at.  I was nervous, I called him back and he took a couple of minutes but then told me I got the job.  I will start on Monday!!! YEA!!!  It is much lower than I had wanted but it is a job.  I will start at $17.50 an hour but there will be room to increase after my 3 month probationary period.  With that out of the way and the weight lifted...

I got up and made sure my son was out the door on time and then made sure my hubby got up and out on time.  I spent the day focusing on trying to find a job.  I got a call to have a 2nd interview for the place I interviewed for last Wednesday.  That made me feel good - it is down to about 8 people.  I got information from my hubby's doctor so we have a timeline for his surgery on Feb 28th.  I started making some calls about places to stay.  Looks like it will be harder than I thought and more expensive as that is when the SF Giants will be doing spring training.  I started dinner cooking in the crock pot and then my son came home from school.  We talked and he cleaned his room.  Then we headed off to choir.  I came home and hubby and I got a chance to just talk.  My hubby picked up my son after choir and we then ate dinner.  By the time we finished it was getting late.  So we went to bed.  I was trying to get my laund...

Today started off good even though hubby and I were tired from going to bed and not sleeping well.  We were both really anxious.  I made sure my son was getting up and we headed to the airport.  We got there and parked with no problem.  In security despite my hubby being anxious - *I* was the one who they decided to do a pat down on - hubby walked right through.  To think someone was worried that my skirt could hide some scary weapon - LOL.  So we get through security buy a pathetic breakfast from Burger King and wait.  I called my son to make sure he was on the way out to school.  We boarded the plane and took off on time.  Then just as they said we could take out electronic devices - we made a turn and they asked us to return them (about 20 min into the flight) - we landed back at our original airport.  They had us sit there for over 4 hours!  Our appointment was for noon - and at 12:30 we were still at our original airport sittin...

So we got up and hubby and I decided to enjoy some mac n cheese since my son was away.  Hubby went out and bought some fireworks - now we have a lot between the two of us.  We relaxed and chatted - I talked to him about some hard topics and he let me book the plane tickets to a consult that he needs to go to.  At least in one area I feel I am moving forward in my life.  My son called and invited us to his friend's house for a BBQ and to bring our fireworks.  We did - we enjoyed the company - and then spent several hours shooting off fireworks.  Between our fireworks and their's we had hours of fun!  Even setting off many at a time for the fun of it.  Finally we left a bit after 11pm.  I realized somehow I lost my bluetooth on Saturday - hubby tried to help me find it - no luck - so I went to bed knowing I would not be able to talk while driving - oh well. Now to see what will happen this week on the job front.