Lady Heather's Domain: My life in a Nutshell

So this year my seeds of intent were: This year I had 5 seeds in my apple. So this year my seeds of intent are: 1.  To walk more After a tough start in 2015 because of a hurt foot - I went on a cruise and then got a FitBit and that is really helping me walk more.  As of this date I have walked over 500 miles since July 14th and 1,200,000 steps.  I also have lost almost 40 lbs. 2.  To make sure I do self-care I am making sure to take time when I need it - schedule clients so I am not too overwhelmed and am working to keep taking trips in nature.  I am now taking care of my diabetes and also exercising and eating really low carb.  3.  To pass my licensing exams I passed them both first time! 4.  To find a way to be supportive of my daughter and not enable her. After one last try sending her to Colorado, and then bringing her back to Bakersfield I will act as a cheerleader but no longer will enable her and tell her no and give her s...

Beaver Moon, sometimes called Frost Moon is usually the full moon in November. From Wikipedia: Two reasons are given for the coupling of the November moon with the flat-tailed aquatic animal: (a) November is a month when many hunters used to set leghold traps for beaver, [1] and (b) November is a month when many beaver families are especially active in rebuilding their beaver lodges and dams . [2] Much of the mammals' building and repair work takes place by moonlight, because the beaver is primarily nocturnal . Both explanations implicate November's position as the last full month before the coming of winter , as beaver (which do not hibernate ) need to have ready access to food during the cold months, and need to grow an especially lush pelt of fur so as to be prepared. By the traditional valuation standards of the fur trade , a late-fall beaver pelt was worth more than a pelt harvested during other seasons of the year. I have been cleaning the house and organiz...

So I am working hard on forgiving myself and my daughter and just letting go.  I love her and always will but there is nothing I can do to make her life better or work to heal her since she has to do that herself. Today a friend shared this link to a post about being a mother of an unattached child. Another friend shared this post about transforming your darkness And GoodTherapy posted this on coping with grief why forgiveness matters so much All on my facebook this AM. I think it is time to just forgive and let go - I have cried and feel a bit different - I am going to keep working on some of this dark and painful emotions and really just work on letting go.

Heather Cassandra Blessing, LMFT's Personal Strategic Plan Argosy means Large Ship or a Fleet of Ships and it can also mean a rich supply. I went to Argosy University for both my BA and my MA and find my calm in the ocean.   I wish to live my life as a "Rich Supply Ship", providing supplies (and support) for others while making sure I maintain my ship properly so I can continue to provide supplies. My Mission Statement My mission in affect change by using my knowledge, experience, logic and empathy.   In order to affect change, I must maintain a positive, problem solving attitude a majority of the time by being aware of my thoughts and scheduling self-care. My goals; Be aware of my thoughts by noticing negative depressing thinking at least 6 out of 10 times and reward myself with a congratulations thought each time. Do more self-care by setting aside time each day for relaxing or reading and at least 1 time a month v...

So today is really hard to keep walking.  I am tired and my feet really hurt today, but I know I need to walk and work out more.  At the time of this post I have walked 12,000 steps and want to walk at least another 3,000 more.  Sometimes it is hard to just keep your chin up and keep moving but I am going to because I know it will get easier.

Working on increasing my activity level.  I want to keep my blood sugar lower and I want to continue to lose weight so I am increasing and going to shoot for about 20,000 steps a day.  I am hoping this will help me continue to lose weight and lower my blood sugar even more.

 So this morning I woke up really early to volunteer and go to the couples conference but my face was so swollen (especially my cheeks) that I could not see (my cheeks were so swollen they pushed my eyes closed from the bottom).  I didn't expect it after a laser session to remove my spiderweb veins from my checks - but they did warn about it.  I hope that as my face heals I will continue to see less veins and my face will look more pale (since I am so red as of late because of my Rosacea.  

Not what you think - I am doing a 2 day training on how to do therapy with couples.  I am enjoying learning lots of little things that can help me better work with couples but even more that every time they mention something that is helpful to a relationship - I realize my hubby and I do it.  And when they talk about harmful things that hurt a relationship - we have never done them.  It is so cool to see that you are doing what the experts say are the way to have a long, healthy, happy and loving relationship.   In less than a month we will celebrate our 7th year wedding anniversary and in December that will be 9 years since we have met.  I am so blissfully happy in our marriage.